New year’s resolutions can either be positive, or they can be a stick that we beat ourselves with. So many of us focus on resolutions like losing weight and going to the gym more, but we neglect to think about our happiness and mental wellbeing. Here are some resolutions you can try for better mental health in 2019.
Learn to meditate
Learning how to focus on the present moment, even for just a few moments can make you feel so much less stressed and more at peace. There’s no right or wrong way to meditate, and it’s not about switching off your thoughts. It’s about focusing on the here and now ( concentrating on your breathing can help), recognising when your mind has wandered, and bringing it back when it does.
Schedule in some ‘me time’
Spend some time doing something that makes you happy and relaxed, even if it’s just taking time out to read a book or have a long soak. It’s good for the soul.
At the end of each day, write down three things you are grateful for, no matter how small. That way, if you go to bed thinking you’ve had a rubbish day, you can look back at your list and maybe realise it was better than you thought.
Get more sleep
Do you climb into bed and tell yourself you’re going to go on Facebook for ten minutes, then before you know it, an hour has passed? Missing out on sleep is bad for your physical and mental health. Make a resolution to go to bed ten minutes earlier each night until you’re in bed an hour earlier than usual. You mind and body will feel the benefit.
Learn to say no
If you don’t have time to do a favour for someone or to take on extra work, say so. Running yourself ragged to please other people is not sustainable and you’ll end up exhausted, stressed, and resentful.
Stop comparing yourself to other people
Nobody is living your life but you. There’s always going to be someone who’s more attractive, richer, more successful, and more intelligent than you, but you know what? That’s okay. You have unique gifts to offer the world just like everyone else. Think, ‘well they’re great, but so am I’, rather than ‘they’re so much better than me.’
Getting physical can boost your mood and give you a great outlet for stress or anger. Plus it can do wonders for your self-esteem if you’re healthy and in good shape. It doesn’t matter what you do, it just matters that you enjoy it.
Be a friend to yourself
When your inner critical voice starts telling you that you’re rubbish, pause and ask yourself how you would talk to a friend. Would you tell them that they were rubbish/not good enough/a terrible parent? ( and the list goes on). Of course you wouldn’t. Treat yourself with the same kindness and compassion you’d offer them.
Try new things
If you feel stuck in a rut, why not try something that takes you a bit out of your comfort zone? You might discover a talent you never knew you had.
Ask for help if you need it
If you’re struggling, it’s time to let people know you need some support. Asking for help is nothing to be ashamed of. Remember that you deserve to have a happy life where you have every chance of fulfilling your potential. And you know what they say about a problem shared…